Difficult play date
Yesterday my little one had a play date, it was with someone from school and I knew they already had a complicated relationship from all the different kind of stories I’ve heard. Like one day they play well together and other days she is very negative about this child.
After school they wanted to play together, and we went to our home.
It was a disaster.. I was very sad and also annoyed at how my daughter was basically bullied the whole time. At first I just observed, so that I have a clearer perspective on the situation. But even though I tried to reason and make peace or set boundaries, it didn’t stop. I got really worried when my neighbor started to talk to me about how mean the child was. She has worked with little ones and she told me this is not normal behavior for this age and the way the child talked was just very toxic..
I was torn, because I can’t be mad at the child. I even can’t be mad at her mother, because I don’t know their situation fully, and even if I did, I am not called to judge. But I am worried and sad for this child.
I talked with my husband about it and decided to talk to one of my friends, who know this child and mother better. Not in a gossiping way, but to get a better perspective and maybe, if it’s necessary, we can have a talk with the mother. I mean, if she needs help, I want to see what I can do. I, and also my friend, believe strongly in community. And because we live in a small village, they are also part of our community. Our children go to the same school and we can’t just ignore each other.
I know, some people will not be my people, and I will not go over my own boundaries (or my child’s) but I believe within those boundaries we can be civil and polite with each other. I just hope they are open for that mindset also..